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yourhue:

Black women and girls lost to gun violence, police brutality, intimate partner violence and transphobia:

 

Dana Larkin

Kassandra Perkins

Rekia Boyd

Tarika Wilson

Aiyana Stanley-Jones

Adaisha Miller

Brandy Martell

Deanna Cook Patrick

Tyisha Miller

Ashley Sinclair

We remember your names and we honor your lives.

lifeislikeabadrpg:

uglylilmonster:

lifeislikeabadrpg:

"Don’t be defined by your condition" often seems to mean "pretend your condition doesn’t shape your life or else".

"Don’t let [traumatic life-altering event that causes long-term emotional, mental, and physical health problems] define you" often seems to mean "stop talking about [traumatic life-altering event] and pretend it never happened and doesn’t shape your life or else".

This is an important point.

But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:

Ugly
Unhealthy
Smelly
Lazy
Ignorant
Undisciplined
Unlovable
Burdensome
Embarrassing
Unfashionable
Mean
Angry
Socially inept
Just plain icky

So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.

Kate Harding (via annecarsons)

(Source: catholicaramis)

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